My mom has always been my best friend. Most people see/hear that and say “oh that’s so sweet”, without discovering the downfall. Think. Best friends tell EACH OTHER everything. While it is great to have my Mom as a confidant to talk to, it is NOT so great to be my Mom’s confidante. I don’t believe children should have to hear about their parents complaint about the other spouse, or their siblings. Am I wrong? It is the parents job to listen, to help solve problems. I am not saying I have issues listening to my mother, only saying I think there is a definite line of where that should stop.
My Mom has recently developed a drinking problem. Maybe not so recently, I am not sure, I haven’t lived at home for four years; but recently is when I have become aware. I think there are different kinds of drinking problems. She doesn’t necessarily have an addiction, she can go without drinking, but when she does… she is hateful.
Normally my mother and I talk multiple times in the day. Last week, drunk, she screamed at me and told me not to call her until she got home from her trip. She went to visit family and came back today. The last time I talked to her was a week ago today. That is so bizarre to me. I know I am in my twenties and completely self sufficient, however I miss her. I didn’t realize just how dependent I became on her. This is the longest we haven’t talked. I am waiting until she calls me. I just hope I don’t have to wait too long. I miss my mom.
